While I usually post lengthy articles, I thought it might be nice to make more bite-sized content.
Starting this week, I’m going to supplement my weekly post with additional therapy thoughts. These will be small posts, not to clutter your inbox, but to give you something to think of at a glance. Today’s therapy thought is simply about personal expectations.
You’re Not Behind, You’re Healing
A common issue in therapy is feeling like you’re behind. That you’re while you’re doing your best to move through anxiety, depression, or relationship problems, you can’t help but feel like you’re not supposed to be.
This is difficult, but expectations like this must be greeted with acceptance. You’re allowed to feel everything you feel, but you’re not behind. Being behind implies that you’re failing to be somewhere else. Everyone would then be “behind” to someone else and there would be a universal image of success.
but more often than not, healing does not deter loving relationships, fulfilling careers, enjoyable lifestyles. Healing requires patience for yourself. Even more so, feeling behind only serves a pseudo-productive purpose – to coerce you into working your way out of it, when it’s not something to work your way out of in the first place.
Unfortunately, feeling behind is a barrier to healing. It likely doesn’t add this anxiety to your life, but accentuate what is already there. Having pain in your life, and taking time to heal from it, is not failure. You are succeeding at treating yourself with care, no matter how long it takes.
You’re worth the time, and so is addressing your pain. If you can accept this, then you are halfway to healing.
Reflections 
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